Do you need a solution for older kids bedwetting that the child is more likely to accept? I have a solution for you to help older kids who wet the bed. This solution is easy and simple and keeps their pajamas dry.
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Nighttime potty training can be a tough process and ongoing for some children for many years. Nighttime dryness is easier for some kids and harder for others. In my house, nighttime bed wetting was a problem so I’m sharing my experience as a mom and my mom-hack solution to this very real problem. My kids have also gone through cycles where they are dry for many nights, then wet again until finally dry all night.
When the Problem Continues for Older Kids
In my experience as a mom I’ve found nighttime potty training has more to do with the individual child, the child’s personality, and genetics rather than the method used to potty train. I knew I had to wait for their bodies to outgrow this problem so I found a product that made our lives better (scroll down for the link).
Most kids are fully potty trained before the age of five. But for some kids they continue to still have accidents during the night for years beyond the age of five, sometimes until the age of ten. While the initial daytime potty training can be difficult, ongoing nighttime bed wetting for older kids is far worse. Older kids become more embarrassed and guilt stricken the longer this problem goes on. There are the nighttime pants out in the stores these kids can wear, but they are so diaper-like that older kids who wet the bed eventually refuse to wear them out of embarrassment. They see them as more of a diaper than a solution to their problem. Plus, when older kids are forced to wear the absorbent pants, this instills a fear of being found out and teased by peers in sleepover situations.
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We Needed a Solution
As a busy mom, I didn’t want to wash sheets (or big bed pads) every day because of nightly bed wetting, so wearing just underwear to bed for a consistent nighttime wetter didn’t work. The kid wakes up wet and the mattress may take a hit of urine if it penetrates the moisture proof mattress pad. For my family, limiting liquids for the child and having him urinate before bed still did not stop bed wetting. I did not want to try the medication or alarm route so I began brainstorming about potential solutions to our problem.
My Revelation: The Mom Hack Solution
One day a mom hack hit me as I was walking through a store. A mom hack that allowed me to get my son willing to wear nighttime urine protection. I started to buy the urine pads called Guards or shields made by Depend for men or the pad made for women works for girls. It’s like a maxi pad but it’s meant for urine and it’s made for adult males or females, not babies or toddlers. The pad has a sticky side to attach to underwear so the child can even wear his own underwear to bed. This is a huge bonus for older children.
I had found a solution that worked for our family. My child didn’t have to wear the diaper-like pants anymore. He was protected from leaks as was the bed, and it was easier to hide urinary leak protection at sleepovers. The sleepover factor becomes huge for kids because this secret is not one kids would want broadcasted.
Just like any solution it was not fail proof. It would leak on occasion but for the most part it made not only his life better, but mine too because there weren’t any more struggles about wearing protection at night.
Tips on How to Hide Nighttime Bed Wetting For Sleepovers
For sleepovers at a friend’s house have your child bring their whole overnight bag to the bathroom to put the pad in their underwear in privacy. Once the pad is in place, tell your child to avoid wrestling with the friend to prevent the pad from being discovered (boys like to wrestle, this may not be a problem for girls). Pack a ziplock bag in the overnight bag so your child can put the pad in it in the morning and dispose of it at home. Again they should bring their overnight bag to the bathroom to get dressed in the morning to conceal the pad. This way their friend doesn’t even need to know and the pad won’t get found in the garbage by anyone.
Have the child bring their own sleeping bag to the sleepover. This way if the pad does leak the sleeping bag should absorb the urine. The sleeping bag can easily be washed at home and the accidental leak never has to be discovered.
Benefits for Moms
The bonus part for moms in addition to less laundry is a financial benefit. The Depend® pads are cheaper than the other nighttime pants plus I often found coupons. The pack also has a higher count so I would buy them less frequently than I had to buy the traditional night time absorbent pants. This was a win-win solution that reduced my son’s humiliation due to bed wetting and allowed for sanity at bedtime.
We didn’t need to resort to any uncomfortable plastic sheets or other bed pads that would protect the bed but not the pajamas. The urine would soak into the pad most of the time and allow for uninterrupted sleep. Eventually my kids outgrew the nighttime bedwetting.
Check your flex spending policy because many companies reimburse for urinary incontinence products, mine does.
From mom to mom, let me tell you this switch was a lifesaver and got us through many rough patches!
There are medical conditions that can cause ongoing nighttime bed wetting. A doctor should be consulted with any concerns a parent has about nighttime bed wetting.
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Or, I have also used the generic brands with some success, but honestly, we’ve had the most luck with the Depend® brand. As another alternative, washable absorbant pads for the bed can be found online, however, I like the pad option better because their underwear and pajamas stay dry with the pad (occasional leaks of course). These pads may work great for kids trasitioning out of the underwear shields however. Here is the link on Amazon to the washable pads: Waterproof Reusable Incontinence Bed Pads Washable Incontinence Underpads 8 Cups Absorbency，Non-Slip Mattress Protector for Adults, Kids and Pets(34”x 36” inch 2 Pack)
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